We all want to be great dads, but chances are, our fathers never sat down with us and taught us how to be a better father. Although everyone was raised with a father and a mother but we don’t necessarily want to be our fathers. I mean, we want to imitate their positive influence on us, but we also want to do it our own way. And because children tend to spend more of their time with their mother, not being the greatest dad ever isn’t as obvious. No matter who we are, though, we can always improve our relationship with our kids and our spouse, and we can redefine the meaning of fatherhood each and every day.
Here are quick points on how to be a better father, you can pick 10 of them and start taking action for about one month. I’m sure you will see the difference by then.
- Be present with your children and listen to them with all of your attention.
- Praise on your kids.
- Focus on the positive when speaking to your children.
- Say I love you. A lot. Don’t be afraid to show your emotions to your family.
- Work on improving your relationship with your wife or partner.
- Take time out from work for the family time.
- Let your kids make their own choices, hold your kids accountable for their actions and words, but don’t use punishment to teach.
- Do something wacky and unpredictable in front of your kids.
- Spend some time one-on-one with your child.
- Take more walks, and leave the car at home.
- Admit you’re wrong when you are.
- Teach a new dad what you’ve learned so far.
- Take time for yourself, so you can bring that sense of fulfillment with you to the family.
- Remember what you hated to hear from your parents as a kid and vow to be different.
- Read out loud to your children.
- Leave your work issues at your job. Don’t dump on your kids because your day was bad.
- Count to 10 before you react to your children’s actions.
- When a child does something not so nice, separate their actions from them in your mind. A child is never bad, even though their actions may be.
- Make your health and fitness a priority so you’ll be around for your kids for a long time.
- Take the time to really explain things to your children. Don’t just say “because I said so.”
- Accept who you are, but don’t settle. Strive to improve yourself every day.
- Periodically assess your life and change course if needed. Don’t be unhappy just because you think you can’t change.
- Imagine you’ve only got one week left to live. How would you treat your kids? What’s stopping you from doing that right now?
- Find your center and define what truly matters to you. Make that your inner retreat when life throws you a curve ball and share that with your kids.
Always keep in mind that time spent with your kids is Gold!