Repetitive Tasks That Can Reshape Your Life For A Better Fatherood

Posted on Monday, June 13, 2016 by Jessica Helou

We all want to be great dads, but chances are, our fathers never sat down with us and taught us how to be a better father. Although everyone was raised with a father and a mother but we don’t necessarily want to be our fathers. I mean, we want to imitate their positive influence on us, but we also want to do it our own way. And because children tend to spend more of their time with their mother, not being the greatest dad ever isn’t as obvious. No matter who we are, though, we can always improve our relationship with our kids and our spouse, and we can redefine the meaning of fatherhood each and every day.

Here are quick points on how to be a better father, you can pick 10 of them and start taking action for about one month. I’m sure you will see the difference by then.

  1. Be present with your children and listen to them with all of your attention.
  2. Praise on your kids.
  3. Focus on the positive when speaking to your children.
  4. Say I love you. A lot. Don’t be afraid to show your emotions to your family.
  5. Work on improving your relationship with your wife or partner.
  6. Take time out from work for the family time.
  7. Let your kids make their own choices, hold your kids accountable for their actions and words, but don’t use punishment to teach.
  8. Do something wacky and unpredictable in front of your kids.
  9. Spend some time one-on-one with your child.
  10. Take more walks, and leave the car at home.
  11. Admit you’re wrong when you are.
  12. Teach a new dad what you’ve learned so far.
  13. Take time for yourself, so you can bring that sense of fulfillment with you to the family.
  14. Remember what you hated to hear from your parents as a kid and vow to be different.
  15. Read out loud to your children.
  16. Leave your work issues at your job. Don’t dump on your kids because your day was bad.
  17. Count to 10 before you react to your children’s actions.
  18. When a child does something not so nice, separate their actions from them in your mind. A child is never bad, even though their actions may be.
  19. Make your health and fitness a priority so you’ll be around for your kids for a long time.
  20. Take the time to really explain things to your children. Don’t just say “because I said so.”
  21. Accept who you are, but don’t settle. Strive to improve yourself every day.
  22. Periodically assess your life and change course if needed. Don’t be unhappy just because you think you can’t change.
  23. Imagine you’ve only got one week left to live. How would you treat your kids? What’s stopping you from doing that right now?
  24. Find your center and define what truly matters to you. Make that your inner retreat when life throws you a curve ball and share that with your kids.

Always keep in mind that time spent with your kids is Gold!

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When A Daughter’s Career is Affected Primarily by Her Dad

Posted on Friday, June 03, 2016 by Jessica Helou

For a woman, the first man she met in her life and dived into his masculine being is her father.

Daughters are so attached to their fathers at the psychological level. They tend to see their daddy as the only way to escape the mother’s discipline methods. The way he behaves and play with his daughter can teach empathy, healthy risk taking and identifying boundaries.

We need to pinpoint an essential fact here. The way you treat your daughter, beginning from her childhood can affect her career path. Girls, where their fathers are involved in their lives, have more self-confidence, tend to make better choices on the long term and more likely to finish their education. Most importantly, you will be coaching her unconsciously how she will accept to be treated by men.  All starts with the little things and time you spend with her.

She will learn from you how to be a good leader. Girls observe their fathers thru the way you treat your wife and other authority figures in your family life and set an example for how leadership works or doesn’t. From this aspect, you can decide to make it easy or difficult for her to have leadership skills.

Encourage her to express herself freely to you, for the reason that she will be expressing her opinion to her boss or peers with confidence even if it’s contradictory.

Always keep in mind; it is easier to mentor a daughter than a son. I can share with you some examples of women who were mentored by their fathers and became successful in their career path like Donald Trump’s heir apparent is daughter Ivanka, Rupert Murdoch’s heir apparent is daughter Elisabeth.

Her life career depends on you!

There is no replacement for you since nobody else will teach her the things you will. The Daddy-Daughter relationship is something that women take with her to the grave.

Fatherhood is looking after her while you are there and while you are away. Secure your family’s future through a life insurance policy.

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Finding Time for your Kids

Posted on Friday, May 27, 2016 by Jessica Helou

What are you planning to do with your family this weekend? Or next weekend? Or the weekend after that?

Coordinating schedules and managing our time is a big part of parenting. Between bringing kids to practice or after school activities, having mom and dad on different work schedules, and handling an inevitable child care disruption, it can be easy to lose sight of the importance of making the effort to create time for you and your kids. 

With such busy schedules in mind, we found different ideas on easy, fun, and inexpensive ways you can make the most of the time you have together. Here are a few examples you can try:

Volunteer together!
Research suggests that families who volunteer together forge stronger ties. Also, kids who become involved in community service develop greater self-esteem and are less likely to engage in risky behaviors in their teen years.  

Take a 'what if' trip.
Looking for a conversation starter over your next family dinner? Try this: If you could visit anywhere, or anytime, in the world, where would it be, and why? Share your answer too. 

Say Thank You to Your Kids.
Saying 'thank you' to your children not only lets them feel loved and appreciated, it also helps teach them the importance of showing thanks to others. How? Say it, spend time together, or give them a card.

Make a fort.
Next time you're stuck inside, makes a blanket fort. Grab blankets, pillows, and flashlights then build something incredible. Even a simple tent between two chairs can feel like an adventure if you and your children are working together.
It’s not about how much time you spend together, the important part is that you are together. Those are the moments that can make the biggest difference in your child’s life. 

Take time out from work for family time.
Trust me; they will be more than happy once they know that you left your day at work in order to be present with them. They will really appreciate the gesture you made.

Play games with your children.
Let them win sometimes, but don’t make it obvious or easy.

The thing kids want most from their dads is their time.

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Can Social Media Reshape Fatherhood?

Posted on Thursday, May 12, 2016 by Jessica Helou

Men nowadays are increasingly involved with the social media platforms by sharing their experiences of the highs and lows of parenting.
Research does suggest that the use of social media such as Facebook may help parents to build and maintain social capital'.

Social media can help in building better bonds between fathers and their children since they are all there; sharing pictures and stories together.
From parenting blogs to Facebook, fathers are always concerned about new initiatives to encourage them to be more at ease with their parenting role and more engaged with their children.

Dads can record day-to-day relationship with their kids by uploading pictures and stories via social media. Dads highlighting excitement for Christmas or playing games with their kids can reveal a generational change in attitudes to fatherhood. Posting pictures and comments is a way to express love and pride toward your child.
Positive things you want to share reinforce your perception of your relationship and can strengthen the parental bond.

As the roles of mums and dads become more interchangeable and fathers continue to play a more hands-on role in child rearing, so their attitudes towards public displays of affection are changing too. The process of social networking for fathers not only affirms their emotional attachment to their child but helps them become better dads too.

Whilst social media is great at creating connections with loose ties, we always insist that the face-to-face relationship is the most important one and can’t be replaced with the social media life. It's useful for sharing images of family togetherness, which can be fantastic for close family and friends, I hope that the public conversations about and between fathers continues to grow - but social media audiences are varied, and some people can get annoyed by it.”

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Fatherhood Tips for Parenting Money-Smart Kids

Posted on Friday, April 29, 2016 by Jessica Helou
For kids, a daddy is a superpower person, ready to answer any question they have in mind including the really tough ones like money.
Teaching your kids about money is very important even on a younger age. You don’t need to have a business degree from college to offer children good advice.
Here is a list of things dads can say that can help dads raise more money-smart children.

1. Managing money is about being aware and responsible.
Much of the work in creating awareness can be done with the conversations you have while performing routine family activities. These acts can offer them healthy money awareness. One example is to take your child along on shopping trips and discuss what makes some items "too expensive" and others "good buys”.

2. The best way to make the most of your money is to have a plan.
It’s always better to have a plan so you can figure out what are your expenditures and purchases that should come first on the list. Parents, including dads, have several resources for teaching the value and process of coming up with a spending and saving plan.  

3. Smart saving requires strategy.
Young kids will enjoy saving money in piggy banks, but at around age eight, think about helping them open a small savings account. That way they also begin learning what banking is all about.

4. It is always good to get professional help.
Whether through a class or a trip to your local bank, introduce your children to the various professionals that can help them get and stay money smart.

5. It is good to both get and give money.
Money management lessons shouldn’t be all about getting. These conversations are great opportunities to communicate the power of giving as well.
"People who give generously of their time and their money get tremendous amounts of satisfaction in return," 

6. Walk the talk.
You'll make more of an impression on your children if they can see and hear what you're doing to manage your money.”
Show and tell is a powerful concept when you are teaching children important life concepts and skills like money management.

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Father's Contribution for A Child Development

Posted on Monday, April 18, 2016 by Jessica Helou
The latest research made for parents and their kids shows that children’s social, emotional and cognitive development was hugely influenced by their father’s interaction. It exerts a powerful influence beginning at infancy.

Nowadays, a growing number of fathers are staying home with their children as more mothers choose to go to work. In addition, for the fathers who work a full-time job, the interaction with their kids and spending time with them was increased big time.

Father involvement stabilizes and promotes healthy family functioning, research shows.

Research found that children who have active fathers learn better, have higher self-esteem, and are less prone to depression than those who don't.
Father’s expanding roles can make a huge change in their children’s lives and vice versa.

Children can also affect their parent’s life since they can inspire men to take better care of themselves physically, but it also fills them with a sense of purpose that genuinely enhances their psychological well-being.

Once asking a father why he stopped smoking, he replied: "I suddenly had this feeling, Whoa--what kid wants to have a smoker and a drinker for his dad? It was like I instantly grew up; I knew that I had to be a good role model for my child."

Being an involved dad affects men and bringing many benefits:

• Fatherhood inspires you to ditch bad habits
• It makes you care about what you eat
• It forces you to get off your butt
• It reminds you to get a checkup
• Eases the tension in your life
• Fatherhood pumps up your self-esteem
• It fills you with optimism and Joy

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When Being New to Fatherhood

Posted on Friday, April 15, 2016 by Jessica Helou
For a man, being married is a step that he decided it for himself. But at some point not long after the baby is born, a father feels hit with reality: he's a father! 
This means dealing with new responsibilities, new pressures, and new expectations to live up to. We all come to realize that our lives have changed forever. Sometimes the changes are subtle, sometimes not so subtle. But they're almost always surprising.

The Confusion Phase:
Fathers will feel confused and may feel a clash of emotions. At first, they have their virility, power, and pride for having created a new life as a father. Though, he also feels the anxiety and fear of not understanding your baby’s need.

The Fluctuation Feeling:
A father will definitely experience the uncertainty for the love of his child. One day, and out of the blues, you will feel the intense passion you have for your child; a feeling that no one has ever made you feel it. In the next day, we will encounter disrupting thoughts about being a father with responsibilities, how life really changed and there’s no chance to get back to your normal life.
With these hollow feelings, you will suffer from the guilt, but don’t worry, ambivalence is a perfectly normal part of being a dad and you're going to have the same feelings dozens of times over the next 50 years. So get used to it now.

The Depression Stage:
Even though most people think that baby blues are a woman thing, plenty of guys will experience the same feeling. Yep, it's true, they get depressed once they baby is born. It’s definitely not a hormone thing like in a woman’s case but it’s the feeling of not returning back to reality.

The Fear of Being a Father:
The fear of being a father can’t be neglected, it’s normal and everyone pass through the same anxieties. The fear of not being the father that your son would dream of or you will not be able to protect your family and children like you should. This is so normal for the transition phase; from man to husband and then to a father. Sooner or later, they will almost all go away; some from your skills and others with time.

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The Younger You Are, The Lower Your Premium

Posted on Friday, April 01, 2016 by Jessica Helou

Every parent thinks of a financial coverage for their children, but no one wants to worry about it since it brings negative thoughts about their lifetime expectancy. 

For this reason, they start predicting and convincing themselves that they will live forever. 

All of you as parents try hard to protect your children by baby proofing your home, buying a car with the top safety rating, being extremely careful of your children’s health and education. This is all useless when not considering a life insurance.

 Life is full of uncertainties and you have to make sure that your family is protected. As a parent, it's your job to consider the "what ifs."

 It's the same idea with life insurance. "You buy it and then hope you never have to use it," given that the consequences of not having it could be financially devastating." 

It’s a simple plan with a truly affordable life cover; it offers high levels of protection at a low cost. 

The time to act is right now, and your age is a huge asset. "The math is pretty simple; the younger you are, the lower your premium," Plus, you'll rest easier knowing that your family is protected. 

Now you don't have to worry anymore, we’ve done the legwork to help you find the perfect policy for your family. Get in touch to understand more about the Importance of Protecting Your Children by Contacting Roy on 03869191

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The Solo Bread Earner

Posted on Wednesday, March 23, 2016 by Jessica Helou

Being a breadwinner was always the toughest job ever. Whether you’re a father, a mother or even a single person living with your old parents, you will always be their only support, working hard to ensure a respectful life for you and your family.

The rate of working woman in 2013 was 20.7% of the total population according to the World Bank, whereas the rate of working males was 64.9%. From these percentages we can consider that the Lebanese males are the major breadwinners with many factors to take into consideration; economic tough times, unstable job market, changes in family structure in particularly having a one parent stay home, taking care of the children.

Being a breadwinner does not equate to simply being employed, there might be two-income household however assigning one breadwinner.

The breadwinner is not a new phenomenon in the industrialization time, but the changes are observed in 2015 where women are taking part of the solo breadwinners and acting as financial providers for their families.

Needless to say, being the sole breadwinner is a huge responsibility and can impose pessimistic effects on the sole financial provider if the anxiety becomes too much and was not handled suitably. 

It can strain one’s mental, emotional and psychological health, in particularly, they worry about the unseen and unpredicted circumstances.

Accident injuries, medical emergencies, car accidents and sudden deaths are considered life unforeseen events. Therefore, to be totally aware and not worrying too much about the unpredictable actions that can happen to you or to your family members, you should study your financial plan and consider an insurance policy so you can finally be prepared against such events.

The right insurance policies will go in a lengthy way toward serving you, maintain your earning power and wealth. In order to create a solid personal financial plan, you need to protect your most important assets at a first stage. This can be done with ethical insurance professionals since they are professionally trained to study and choose the right policy for their clients.

Get in touch to understand more about the Importance of Protecting the Bread Winner by Contacting Roy on 03869191

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